A tragic incident has left a Nigerian mother of four dead after enduring years of alleged domestic violence.
A Facebook user, Amarachi Iwuala, who shared this heart-wrenching story, reported that the husband of the deceased had subjected her to ongoing domestic abuse over time. The abuse had escalated to a horrifying extent when the husband reportedly beat his wife until she lost consciousness.
Despite the concerns of friends and family, the deceased, who was nursing a seven-month-old baby at the time, expressed her desire to wait until her children were older before leaving her marriage. Even her own mother had implored her to leave, but she remained steadfast in her decision.
Amarachi’s Facebook post shed light on the harrowing experiences the deceased endured. She wrote,
‘’Another woman gone.
She was married to a man who was viôlent towards her. Not just viôlent, he would lock doors and windows, raise music volume, and then start béating her, so that help won’t come for her.
One day he béat her till she was unconscious, the whole compound joined in rushing her to the hospital. After treatment, she came back to the same house.
People advised her to leave, she said her children were still little, she wanted them to grow a bit before she leaves. She wanted them to grow yet she was giving birth to more. She had four children, the last one is just 7 months old.
Two weeks ago, an old woman living in their compound called this lady’s mother, asking her to come take her daughter if they still want her alive. The mother replied that the lady said she’s not leaving.
This is why it’s good to have some weyrey as a mother. Even if she doesn’t want to leave, use vawulence and bring her out by force. O dighi apu àra.
Back to the story. Two days ago, that is Thursday 2nd November 2023, they woke up in the morning to hear the man béating the woman as usual.
After the béating, normal life continued. They said that night, the lady went about her normal chores, she stayed up till 11pm wasting and hanging cloths. Neighbors saw her.
They all woke up yesterday morning only to hear that the lady is déad. How?
The husband is saying he slept in the sitting room while she slept in the bedroom, that he only entered the room in the morning and found her dead.
Neighbors said her bed was soaked with water though, and there’s still no explanation for that.
The husband is saying she should be buried immediately as he doesn’t have money to pay mortuary bills.
The sad part, her father heard the news and had a heart attack, she was his only daughter. He was rushed to hospital, but news has it that he didn’t make it.
Her 7month old baby cried the whole day and refused to eat every food that was offered her, she was looking for breast milk. She cried till she started running temperature.
See how many lives have been affected by her choices.
Four children rendered motherless. Only God knows what their fate will be, they’ll probably be shared amongst relatives who may/may not treat them well.
I know all these because we have a mutual friend who was at their place yesterday to get first hand info. She was crying bitterly on phone while speaking to me, I told her to stop crying, the lady chose this.
The husband cannot even be held responsible. Police came, asked him questions and left.
We keep writing daily for women to learn, but some are determined to waste their lives.
Someone in an abûsive marriage will read this post and say “it’s not my portion”, and keep staying in the marriage.
Like I’ll always say, we can’t help everybody. Keep staying, keep waiting for your children to grow up, keep thinking of what society will say, keep thinking of how you’ll survive, keep thinking if you’ll find another man, keep thinking the children need a father, keep hoping he’ll change. Just keep at it, since you have no value for the life you have.”
This tragic incident serves as a stark reminder of the profound impact of domestic violence and the difficult choices that some individuals face. It also underscores the urgent need for support and intervention in such cases to prevent further tragedies.
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